Dr. Phil on Making Major Decisions

"We all face times in life when we find ourselves in a situation that's so lousy, we're ready to run headlong for anything, anyone, or anyplace. We're desperately looking for something different, without regard for whether it's better, healthier, or even what we want. We just have to get out, so the plan is "Ready, fire, aim!"

Sometimes it may be okay to shoot and then declare what you hit as your target -- but not when we're talking about your marriage, your career, or your life goals. That's why every time you're looking at a major decision, your first test should be to make certain you're running toward something instead of running from something. You need to ask yourself, "Is this an escape-based decision or a target-based decision?" If it's the former, you may be going from the proverbial frying pan right into the fire.

Think back to geometry class: You can't make a straight line unless you can connect two points. When all you've got is a starting place but no destination, you're left with just a dot. How can you plot the trajectory of your life that way? The only direction you're headed in is "Not here!"

That's not good enough.

...Escape-based choices are almost always disastrous, because they solve only half the problem. Target-based decisions at least have a shot at being successful, so keep that in mind every time you have a significant choice to make. Don't be pushed away from what you don't want; let yourself be pulled toward what you do want. I'm not saying your end goals can't change -- of course they might. But don't tell yourself, "So what if this isn't what I'd hoped for? Heck, it beats what I've got." You deserve better."

-Dr.Phil,  read Make The Right Decisions

How to spot an abuser before it get serious

Being in love and have a history of being abused?
How can you prevent yourself from getting into the same situation again?

This is a very good and long row of questions to ask yourself:

How to spot an abusive partner on the first dates By Sam Vaknin

There is a certain pattern going on in potential abusive people.
Make sure that you recognize these!

Sam Vaknin is a keeper of not less then all nine personality-traits of a Narcissist, so we better listen well to his advices.

Soulmates

   "Soul mates aren`t the ones who make you happiest, no. 

They`re instead the ones that make you feel the most. 

Burning edges and stars. Old pains and pangs, captivation and beauty. Strain and shadows and worry and yearning. 

Sweetness and madness and dreamlike surrender. 

They hurl you into the abyss. They taste like hope."

     -Victoria Erickson                            

                                      El salvador

About Love

"The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves and not to twist them to fit our image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them"

-Thomas Morton

"If a writer falls in love with you, you can never die"

Wishes

The Power of a Smile

The acclaimed aviator and adventurer wrote Letter to a Hostage for his friend Léon Werth while waiting in Portugal for a passage to the United States, having just escaped the terrors of war-torn France. Saint-Exupéry's observations on the aimless existence of his fellow exiles in Lisbon filled with parties, gambling and spies leads him to examine the nature of existence itself.

"Then the miracle happened. Oh! a very discreet miracle. I had no cigarette. As one of my guards was smoking, I asked him, by gesture, showing the vestige of a smile, if he would give me one. The man first stretched himself, slowly passed his hand across his brow, raised his eyes, no longer to my tie but to my face, and, to my great astonishment, he also attempted a smile. It was like the dawning of the day.                                                                                                         
This miracle did not conclude the tragedy, it removed it altogether, as light does shadow. There had been no tragedy. This miracle altered nothing visible. The feeble oil lamp, the table scattered with papers, the men propped against the wall, the colors, the smell, everything remained unchanged. Yet everything was transformed in its very substance. That smile saved me. It was a sign just as final, as obvious in its future consequences, as unchangeable as the rising of the sun. It marked the beginning of a new era. Nothing had changed, everything was changed. The table scattered with papers became alive. The oil lamp became alive. The walls were alive.The boredom dripping from  every lifeless thing in that cellar grew lighter as if by magic. It seemed that an invisible stream of blood had started flowing again, connecting all things in the same body, and restoring to them their significance. The men had not moved either, but, though a minute earlier they had seemed to be farther away from me than an antediluvian species, now they grew into contemporary life. I had an extraordinary feeling of presence. That is it: of presence. And I was aware of a connection. The boy who had smiled at me, and who, until a few minutes before, had been nothing but a function, a tool, a kind of monstrous insect, appeared now rather awkward, almost shy, of a wonderful shyness — that terrorist! He was no less a brute than any other. But the revelation of the man in him shed such a light upon his vulnerable side! We men assume haughty airs, but within the depth of our hearts, we know hesitation, doubt, grief.

Nothing had yet been said. Yet everything was resolved."

When your geographical location decides your diagnose

I came across these three very informative and easy to understand videos. It made the light-bulb shine at least for a moment!

What a large lack of understanding of blood-chemistry there is and what various impact of our diagnoses!
For example:
1.  The "reference range" of each value is based on blood-samples extracted from ill people, not healthy ones. So what they actually tells you is that you are within the range of what a group of other unhealthy people also have experienced. That sounds weird to me. How can a blood sample really be sure under this circumstances?
2. The variation on what is within "normal levels". It is quite confusing as you will be treated differently according to the standards in the area,country or hospital you are seeing when taking the tests.

3. They do not test for "less likely" reasons for the individuals sufferings.

 A lot of people today are living under severe long-time stress.  This creates over-production of Cortisol in the blood and can lead to lack of other hormones.(as shown in the video about Pregnenolone-steal) Maybe the hot flushes was not menopausal but a disturbance in the hormonal flow caused by stress! And prolonged Cortisol-production can lead to increased sized adrenal-glands because of the high flow. In the end they get into a stage of fatigue and levels of Cortisol drops together with the other hormone levels.

This unbalance also interfere with thyroid disturbance and should be studied closer. Taking Thyroid-hormones without regulating a fatigue adrenal-state or high Cortisol can make additional stress to the adrenal-glands and worsen the symptoms.

 Chronic Fatigue may have a lot in common  with adrenal-fatigue and it could be interesting to discover if the fatigue reduces by taking low-dose,
 (5mg) PREGNENOLONE together with 5 mg DHEA during a 6 months period, stimulating the adrenal-glands to produce the hormones that is missing. Unlike many other medications, the Pregnenolone do not shut down the production in the body, but stimulates it.
The above suggestion is based on several personal experiences from men and women with thyroid-medication and fatigue, hot-flushes or other hormonal related symptoms.

Thyroid-problems can be caused by several other dysfunctions than the one of autoimmune illness. If you have all the symptoms but your doctor tell you that everything is fine, one of these may be the reason. But because there is no regularity in looking at these other options, it often remains in the dark. The 20% (or maybe more) that tests negative on autoimmune should ask for this in particular.

I will let Dr.Walsh speak for himself in these three interesting videos :

Problems with modern Blood-Chemistry, Thyroid Physiology and Effects on stress: Pregnenolone steal

Some of the suggestions to heal from adrenal fatigue:

Lying down during your work breaks (preferably at 10 a.m. and again anytime from 3 to 5 p.m.)

Sleeping until 9 a.m. as often as possible

Laughing

Exercising

Minimizing stress

Taking negative people out of your life

Eating regular meals

Chewing well

Doing something fun each day

Learn more: http://www.naturalnews.com/019339_adrenal_fatigue_chronic_stress.html#ixzz2uMMK8Hov